Black Lives Matter

There is no perfect way to put into words Americas inhumane, horrifying, and heartbreaking current events. Regardless, I hope you will still read what I have to say. Along with everyone else, my head hurts, my heart hurts, and I’m scared. I am also angry, however my intent is to speak with love as I believe that is how others will be most willing to listen. 

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Self Discipline

Self discipline is one area in my life that I have been trying to improve for what feels like forever. I would love to not have to spend any time resisting temptations or internally fighting myself. I have realized that where I lack self discipline, I also lack self awareness. Awareness is more than knowing what your preferences are and knowing your plan for the day. It’s the motivation, why you do what you do, noticing how you relate to others – it’s the deep stuff. It’s knowing who you are and what you’re doing. Once you are self aware, self discipline comes much easier.  (more…)

Setting Boundaries

Every relationship in your life is based on boundaries. They are the standards you set for what you tolerate. Your family treats you a certain way because they know exactly how far they can push you. The people you surround yourself with treat you the way that they do because they see how you treat yourself. They know your boundaries. If you think about it, the way you talk, what you talk about, and the level of respect expected is determined by a person’s limits. It’s necessary. (more…)

Why Change Is Hard

The reason people don’t change is pretty simple. We don’t want to do hard things, we say we want to change, but we don’t want to be uncomfortable. Why would you choose to be uncomfortable when you can just stay the same?
We might work so hard on something until we finally make some progress that we’re happy with and then we become complacent. We don’t want to be uncomfortable anymore. How do we find a middle ground between being uncomfortable and being happy at where we are now? Wouldn’t it be so much nicer if you actually wanted to be uncomfortable? I mean, we can do that. It sounds crazy and it’s much easier said than done I know, but stay with me.  (more…)

“Am I Where I’m Supposed To Be?”

I know I’m not the only one who has ever asked myself this. This has been kind of sitting in the back of my mind for a while and I felt like now was a good time to bring attention to it. Lately I have become more aware of little anxious feelings I’ve been getting, mostly at night. It’s almost like I can’t breathe, and I mean obviously it’s not that I truly can’t because my breathing is just fine, but I can feel something on my chest so it’s just seems harder, you know? It’s nothing like the suffocating feeling I’ve gotten before that I talked about here, but I’m hoping by the end of this you’ll know what I’m talking about. (more…)

Self Sabotage

Definition: Creating unnecessary problems for oneself, or intentionally causing destruction of ones own goals.

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