Self discipline is one area in my life that I have been trying to improve for what feels like forever. I would love to not have to spend any time resisting temptations or internally fighting myself. I have realized that where I lack self discipline, I also lack self awareness. Awareness is more than knowing what your preferences are and knowing your plan for the day. It’s the motivation, why you do what you do, noticing how you relate to others – it’s the deep stuff. It’s knowing who you are and what you’re doing. Once you are self aware, self discipline comes much easier.
People wonder all the time “how to stay motivated” but honestly, motivation has very little to do with accomplishing anything. You can not wait until something motivates you to start something, you just have to do it. Motivation always comes and goes, and if you solely wait for motivation, the excuses will continue and it will take exponentially longer to get anything done. Motivation is always at its peak when you start anything, but it declines almost just as fast. It’s not reliable and if you’re just “not in the mood” you’ll talk yourself out of it. Discipline is when you do the work because you know it has to be done regardless of anything else.
If you allow self-sabotage, your life is going to display that. If something comes up in your life, you’re going to become unmotivated and put it on the back burner. It has happened to me too often and I think I can say that I’m not alone here.
Find where you lack discipline. Think back to last week and find a time that you planned to be productive, but you got distracted because something more appealing came up. What did you end up giving your attention to? What was more important?
Pay attention to what frustrates you everyday. Things that can break your focus and motivation are everywhere. Know what causes you to become distracted and keep it far, far away from you. Learning to be disciplined is difficult because you have to be constantly aware. Aware of your surroundings, aware of your decisions, aware of how your decisions are affecting you. People often either overestimate their ability to say no or they make decisions based on how they are feeling at the time, and as people we tend to be slaves to our emotions. When people become emotional they tend to let their self discipline go out the window. How often do you get invite to something or have a fun idea and blow off your priorities because of your fear of missing out? You are controlled by emotions, and only rewarded with short term gratification.
To be disciplined you have to show up over and over, despite how you feel. What you’re striving for is more impactful, it is important to stay committed to it. Not everyday is going to be your best day, but making them habits does help. You should have higher expectations of yourself than anyone else does of you.
Simply forming habits is not enough to get you to your “end game”. Habits are actions we take subconsciously, habits are autopilot. Our goals should not be something just on “autopilot”. I am all about making and breaking habits, but thats a topic for another day. This is why I believe discipline is so important. Discipline is when something is so important, that not doing it is not an option.
This is something that I myself am still trying to learn. To be honest, it’s difficult to write about some topics when I haven’t mastered it myself, but I often realize this is the best time to write about them.
I hope this helped you in one way or another,
Thanks for reading ☀️