Finding Your Place

Maybe you came across this post because you’re at a point where you feel lost and you don’t know what to do, maybe you feel stuck and not sure where you’re headed. Maybe you came across this post because you think it’s time for some changes. Whatever the reason, I hope it helps. 

Sometimes it’s shocking how quickly I can go from having a perfect and clear idea on what and where my place is in the world, to suddenly feeling so completely lost that I wake up almost sick in the middle of the night. I always remind myself that cutting ties to things is supposed to free me up for bigger and better things, but lately the freedom doesn’t feel as I hoped.

Life requires us to grow. Constantly. When we stop growing, we become stagnant. We get stuck in old thought patterns, old behaviors and old fears. It becomes uncomfortable. That’s when tensions start and things get worse, it doesn’t have to be like this. My personal life has been a bit more hectic than I’m used to the past few weeks and lately I’ve noticed I’ve been very uncomfortable. I’ve gotten to a place in my life that I’ve become almost obsessed with trying to focus on myself, trying to learn new things and become better in any way that I can and realizing that life getting crazy for a second really put that on hold was terrifying to me. Really, you don’t only grow and change when you think you NEED it. You are changing all the time. Life is constantly trying to push you further than what you think you’re capable of. Change isn’t a choice for us, it’s just something we all do. Our choice is more of deciding how easy we want to make it. If you just let life happen, its going to be more difficult to make changes and they probably won’t be the ones you’re hoping for. If you have a mindset to continue to push yourself, you’ll notice that changes becomes easier and easier, and you’ll enjoy them more.

I think we usually pretty much know when we’re supposed to be doing better, but sometimes purposely ignore it because whatever we’re doing now seems easier. It’s easier to go with the flow and go out with friends than it is to be disciplined and say no. It’s easier to listen to friends when they tell you to have a more “balanced” life because you don’t want to feel guilty so you’d rather let yourself down than let your friends down. Even if it involves doing something you don’t want to do. There are periods of my life when I feel more focused and working on something and don’t want to make time for other things. It doesn’t mean that I don’t care about them, but sometimes priorities have to be different. These feelings don’t come from nowhere. If you think you should be doing better, you’re probably right. If you think you are complaining too much, you are probably right. If you think what you’re doing isn’t challenging you, you are probably right. If you think that you need to fix or end certain relationships, you are probably right. There is no point that you can or should ever stop growing. Most people spend their entire lives doing the same thing, trying to find a comfortable point, and wonder why they’re never happy.

Knowing that you can keep getting better in life doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t appreciate where you are, I think you always should look back and appreciate that. It just means recognizing that you can always go further. Too many people spend too much time trying to convince themselves they are already good enough, without realizing that that’ll probably never happenYou will feel good enough when you’re going after whatever you feel your place is, because when you’re doing that you won’t have to convince yourself of anything. Don’t pretend everything is great when it’s not. Admit that you’ve probably made some poor decisions. Admit that you haven’t been working as hard as you should be. You won’t get anywhere until you’re honest with yourself. Once you can do that everything else will become much much easier.

I hope this post helped at least one person and thank you guys all so so much for your love always.

Thanks for reading ☀️☀️☀️

29 thoughts on “Finding Your Place

  1. I really appreciate your honest posts. We all know we’re not the only ones who struggle out there, yet we still feel so alone. It’s great to read your posts and feel that warmth from a pained stranger. Each day is a new day that we are lucky to walk into.
    I put posts out there that are not always full of sunshine and lollipops, be grateful for the reads!!
    startrekkingwithkodakkirky.com xo

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  3. This post basically said everything that I have been mentally telling myself, but have not wanted to say out loud for fear of something. I am currently going through that situation right now and you are absolutely right. If you are not growing and are staying stagnant, then it’s not really right for you. Why settle when you know that there is something else out there waiting for you. Thank You for your post. I will definitely be sharing it.

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  5. Sigh. I’m stuck between the two points you mention here — very grateful for what I have and what I’ve accomplished because I worked so hard for them, but the progress I’m making towards bigger and better things seems impossibly slow. Blah!

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  6. It sticks with me about having a clear and perfect place in the world to feeling lost.

    It is a feeling that keeps happening to myself… so often, that when I come around and find everything great again, that I now accept it being part of the process to build residence, achieving a greater sense of satisfaction when the obstacle is overcome.

    Thank you for sharing such a lovely post.

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  7. I understand this very well. I love to learn, so pushing myself to learn more is always fun. Yes, I sometimes stop for temporary moments because we all need to rest our weary feet at times, but we need to keep in mind not to rest too long and become stagnant. I cannot follow Jesus Christ better than the day before and become what He has planned for me to become–living a life filled with joy–if I dont continue to study or allow changes to occur in life. Change isn’t meant to be scary; like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly, it’s meant to be beautiful. Thanks so much for sharing.

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  8. I think we usually pretty much know when we’re supposed to be doing better, but sometimes purposely ignore it because whatever we’re doing now seems easier.

    This line hit me so hard and I realised that this is one of the things I did and am probably doing now and yes I feel so great that I can finally put words to this feeling and I just can’t thank you enough!

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  9. Thank you for the trought-provoking text. I like your way of thinking; however, I have to disagree on one issue. Not everyone is changing, I personally know people who stayed (first of all mentally) where they were 10 years ago. Now change at all. They live in their bubble far from the fast moving world. There is also some people who are lost, which clearly happens to us all. Nevertheless, they are ‘lost’ for years, and they don’t even try to figure things out, to find a job because it won’t be ‘perfect’ and they will be more lost. I was naive trying to help them out. Then, I understand that change is the choice. And you can’t make it for people who don’t want it.

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    1. Hi! I completely understand what you’re saying, you can’t make choices for people who don’t want it and you can’t help people who dont want to be helped. This is more for people who do want to change and maybe this was something they needed to read to give them that push. but yes, there are people who believe they can’t change, of course they can. if they want to.

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  10. I think one of the tricks in life we seldom learn to manage is just, well, being content. we can’t all be successful or be millionaires or be loved by many and disliked by very few. The truth is that wealth and success doesn’t mean we will be happy (I suspect it helps, ha ha). Be grateful for what you have. If you have your health, and are loved by somebody, well, you’re better off than many less fortunate than you, so why get depressed or angry when seeing people who have more? It really doesn’t mean they are any more content or at peace with their own lot in life. Far as I’m concerned, Time is all we really have, any of us, and every day is a gift with no guarantee of another.

    Thanks for the nice post. .

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  11. I definitely can relate as over the past few months I’ve been trying to figure out what my passion and purpose is. Finding where you fit in this world can be confusing and frustrating. I’m someone who can adapt to change, as it makes me feel alive and not stagnant. Great post!

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