“I don’t have time” – Everyone
As much as we might hope or expect it to, life is not going to slow down so you can finally start your project, finish your book, take that trip or get some alone time. We all have the same amount of time in the day and we each have to learn how to get what we need in the time that we have. Or you don’t, which probably makes you feel overwhelmed and angry and eventually exhausted. You might start to feel like you don’t have a say in what you do because your time is owned by everyone else.
Have you felt like this? Like your schedule is overflowing with everything you have to do and nothing you want to do. It becomes a mix of misplaced priorities and violated boundaries. It feels like you’re constantly overwhelmed with everyone else’s problems and necessities and at the end of the day you’ve done nothing for yourself. It leads to the famous, “I don’t have time.” I don’t have time for this, for that, for myself, for friends, for anything other than going to work, eating and maybe sleeping every once in a while. I just don’t have time.
How have you let yourself get to a place of not “having” time for things you need to be doing for you but find it when you need to please everyone else? It’s easy. You give your time to other people when people are relying on you because we don’t want to let them down. But it’s not easy to stop and realize when you’re being taken advantage of and when you’ve stopped doing the things you need to be doing. It’s worth thinking about how you spend your time. Who you give it to, where you spend it and the way you think about the time you have. We’ve said it our entire lives, “I don’t have time.” We use it as an excuse to other people when we don’t want to do something, but we also tell it to ourselves as an excuse for using it the wrong way. We neglect our priorities and allow others to demand our time like they make the decisions in our life. When you really start to look at how you spend your time, you’ll probably realize that you have much more free time than you thought. You get so focused on the things you say you don’t have time for that you forget what you could be doing with it. We all have the same amount of time and the same ability to make the most of it. It’s a matter of how we see it and use it, it’s the problem and the solution.
When you think of time as a choice, the mindset of priority is pretty powerful. I know I’ve talked about priorities a million times on here before but here we go again. Set and check on your priorities. When you know what they are it’s easier to say no to everything else. When you know what you want, it’s easier not to accept what others demand from you. If an opportunity comes to you that doesn’t line up with what you want then you’ll know when you should probably not take it. Our priorities are not set and stone, your top priorities at one time might be different at another. Pay attention to what’s most important right now. Be aware of what you want out of each period of your life, no matter how long or short it is, and set your priorities accordingly, or don’t be surprised if it doesn’t turn out how you hope.
Do you ever feel like you’re wasting your time doing something, even though it might normally be something you’d be interested in? Do you instead think about the things that you’d rather be doing, or really needed to be doing? Those are moments you need to pay attention to. If you’re finding yourself dreading the experience or wishing that you were doing something else or staying in after the week you’ve had, pay attention to that. Those feelings aren’t happening for no reason. Call it self-discipline or whatever you want, I see it happen when I’m not scheduling time for what is important to me, and then not taking advantage of that time when I do have it.
We need to stop blaming the amount of time we have when its really just not a priority. Stop doing things that aren’t important to you or for you and spending time with people that don’t matter to you. Everything we do is a decision, you dont need to justify it or make excuses for it. Then keep in mind the same goes for everyone else, dont make excuses for or justify their decisions either.
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