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Reminder

I wanted to write this post and not exactly have a topic, kind of just to chat with you guys.
I want to make sure my blog stays an honest and open place for me to write and share what’s on my mind. I want it to be a place where you come when you’re down and realize that you’re not alone, pain and suffering doesn’t have to last forever, and after reading my posts I hope it makes you feel better. I genuinely and completely believe that if you need time to just take a break then take it and do not feel bad about it, you need that time, but I also want to push every single person who comes here to do better, to get outside of their comfort zones and to do something that you really want to do even if it scares you. I’m doing all of these things and I hope that by talking about it makes it easier for you.
I have recently been trying to teach myself new things, trying to figure out what my next step is, trying to expand and meet people who care about the same things that I do. While doing all of those things I think in the back of my mind I have been putting a lot of extra pressure on myself for what my next post will be, I found myself worrying that I wouldn’t know what to talk about since I have been keeping busy and I found myself worrying what people would think. I felt like that by not knowing exactly what topic was next meant that I was falling off track or that I wasn’t being productive enough. I sat down to write today and while I was thinking about what it was I wanted to write about, I realized that I wasn’t thinking about what I wanted to write, I was thinking about what my readers wanted me to write, which isn’t exactly why I started this whole blog. I have been reading a lot of blogs lately and I think I found myself comparing my blog to others and feeling like I wasn’t doing well enough. I know that I have a lot to learn still, but comparing myself to others is not going to make me any better of a writer and in fact would probably make me a worse writer instead.
After thinking about it and getting inside my head I caught myself, I shouldn’t be getting so upset at myself. I love doing this blog, and I love that this is a place that I can be creative and don’t hold back, and I feel so so thankful that so many people have been benefiting from it. Instead of writing whatever topic I was forcing myself to talk about, i just decided to start typing and by now although this post isn’t as focused on one topic and usual, I know that its real and that’s exactly what I want it to be.
I am so proud of where I am mentally, physically and emotionally. I’m so far from where I know I will go but i’m far from where I started. I think it’s important for myself and everyone else to recognize that we all still have a long way to go, whatever it is you’re dealing with or whatever it is you’re trying to achieve, but don’t forget about how far you are  from where you started.

I’m feeling very sentimental tonight, this blog means the world to me and the amount of love I have gotten warms my heart so much. There’s not even a word to describe the feeling when I see a post make a difference in some of your lives.
Every single one of you deserves to chase whatever it is you’re after, to ditch whatever it is that’s holding you back, and to find something that makes you excited about every day. Most importantly you deserve to feel real happiness, like the world isn’t against you, like you aren’t just trying to get through the day again and again.. but I hope you never feel like you cant get through it, because you can and you will. If you’re going through a rough time, its just a season, it might feel exhausting but it will pass.
If you have found something that makes you happy, keep chasing it. You will never run out of new things to make you happy or things to be proud of.
I know there are so many possibilities for everyone and I would hate for anyone to let that go to waste.

I’m sorry this post is a bit all over the place, that’s kind of where my brain has been.
Lastly, the mailing list for my first 5,000 followers is justtttt about finished!
I have started writing your letters and will keep you updated when they get sent out.

If you still want to be added to my mail list please do! Just send a mailing address to benson_kourtney@yahoo.com and I will add you!!

Thanks for reading☀️☀️☀️

35 thoughts on “Reminder”

  2. This post perhaps defines why we blog. It is about our thoughts, our learning, our experiences that we share with the world. I was once told that my posts are usually a peek into what’s going on in my mind. True that.
    I have also never written what others would want me to write. Something strikes me and I write.
    I consider my blog as something that my children will turn to when they are older (and I am not around) to navigate their way through complex journey called life.

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  3. Thanks for sharing! I’m getting ready to wrap up the series of blog posts I began last month. It was something that I felt passion to write about, but I’m ready to be finished with it now. One more post to go! Isn’t it interesting that once we start releasing our passion for writing about a particular topic, a new one comes along?

    My happy place today was buying a hummingbird feeder and watching the hummingbirds flit about as they sucked the nectar. Hummingbirds are joyous birds.

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  12. Writers learn to become better writers by reading more; readers learn to become more empathetic people by reading more; we all learn about one another the more we speak our truths. Keep writing, keep opening up , and keep reaching out. You’ll keep catching hands. Blessings, Deb

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  13. Your free flowing thoughts are awesome! Very motivating. I agree thinking too much about how the text will be presented just feels like you have a million eyes over your shoulder.
    (delete, rewrite, wait … delete again) I’ll probably end up coming back to the same sentence 10 times.

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  14. I love reading your genuine authentic thoughts. I also struggle with writing what I want to write versus writing what I think people want to read. The anxiety builds constantly “what will people think of me” and I always have to fight that voice. I love the raw emotion giving here because it builds deeper connection with the readers. Keep being you!

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  16. You are amazing for your young age. I love your writing and your honesty and clarity in it. Stay true to yourself regardless of anything else. That is the crucial issue in life. We all suffer at times from things that hurt us, often physically as well as mentally. I was reading a story in National Geographic recently about a young girl who had to undergo a facial transplant because at age 14, she tried to kill herself with a gun or rifle and blew off a good part of her face among other things. Now we don’t always have to read such drastic articles, but the critical thing is to remember that no matter what we go through, there is someone somewhere who is dealing with something worse always. That doesn’t invalidate our own beliefs and feelings, but it does help us to keep things in perspective. By the way, for any of you interested, you can read National Geographic free online and they do send wonderful and unique articles for free often. I have a lot of free subscriptions and it enables me to learn new things in different areas of life every day.

    By the way, I am the owner of the blog: Allinadaysbreath.wordpress.com, and I so appreciate your liking it. I am now 76, so have been on a lot of life journeys, not necessarily to far-away places, but to many experience in a variety of things. I don’t know any more than anyone else when it comes right down to it, but I like you, love helping others and my community. When I was a lot younger, my only and younger brother came home from Vietnam one day, and he was 100% disabled from a TBI, spinal injury, and permanent PTSD. It gave me a heart for working with children and adults with physical/developmental/emotional challenges. I like to use the word challenges instead of disabilities because that suggests that you are not able to do anything, and no matter how bad the challenges, there is something you likely can do.

    It is very nice to meet you and the rest of the nice people who have posted here. Thank you very kindly.

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  18. Thanks so much for your open-hearted post – it truly is an inspiration. And it resonates so highly with where i am (struggling to find words to post on my blog) and what you write allows me precious space to find and feel my own authentic voice like you have done here. Big hugs and big thanks

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  20. Kourtney,

    You don’t even know how hard I relate to this and how much I needed this reminder. I think of myself as an amateur blogger. I think I’m really new still. I keep having to remind myself why I started. I know I will be disappointed if my blog becomes something I feel chained to, to make people like what I post, to get publicity, etc… instead of being a safe and calm space for me to unload my stresses, anxieties and feelings. I feel good that I can always go back to the first post I ever made last year to be reminded of that.

    Notwithstanding, it feels so much better not to have to rely on my own encouragement and my own reminder all the time – especially when people say how good you are and how they want to see more, how you’re gonna be a “star” writer, and especially on the other hand when upon sharing my stuff I don’t see as much feedback as would be nice to receive. I have to remember that people liking my posts is JUST a bonus. My blog’s primary purpose is to allow me to be free to express and de-stress.

    Thanks for this ❤

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    1. not only does it feel better to write from your heart and how youre feeling, but your readers actually enjoy it more when its real and not forced. We all started blogging for the purpose of feeling good, it should stay that way. thank you so much for your comment ❤

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  22. Great post! I am going through a very rough time. I know in my heart and brain, it’s just a season, but it is still very tough some days. But I got God to help me through. I know I’m not alone and that is good to know.

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  23. It ´s really awesome you came out with this idea. People need to know they suffering won ´t last forever and you give them the hope. Thank you for that and yes – this blog is a world. There isn´t better & faster way how to stay in touch and comunicate with the others. Greetings from Slovakia then 😀

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