Patience

You know when life feels like it’s just on repeat? Nothing is new or interesting and the same thoughts going in and out your mind and you’re doing everything on your to-do list but the list repeatedly stays the same. Well, at least for me that has been the feeling lately. I know what I want to achieve but not sure what exactly I’m going to do or what exactly my next move is. I don’t have a map planned out of what to do to reach all the places I want to be. I’ve been stuck on that for some time now, it’s worrisome to not know if each decision is the right one or if each step you take is closer or further from where you’re trying to go. I have also come to the conclusion that that’s okay and that each wrong decision is one step closer to the right one and that I will get to where I’m trying to go as long as I don’t stop looking for what that is.   

When you start to feel scared or stuck it’s so easy to just stop, because at least if you stop you’re not doing anything wrong, right? If you give up at least you didn’t fail, right? Wrong, that doesn’t make any sense. You can’t give up, you can’t stop, you can’t try to find the easy way out. I mean you can, but that isn’t going to be rewarding at all. Whatever it is you have going on in your life, whether you’re going through something, you’re upset about something, you’re trying to accomplish something for yourself, or whatever it may be, you’re not going to get there or any closer to it by doing nothing.
There is a difference between being patient and being passive. Patience is understanding that you have work to do and progress to make and being willing to wait but to do what you can in the meantime. Understand that there are going to be things that get in your way and finding your way around that, understand that things are going to come up and you can handle them without forgetting what you’re working towards. Being passive is learning that things are going to take time and thinking that letting time walk all over you and pass you by is going to get you places. Stop being passive.
Not having it all figured out is not an excuse not to start, because once you start you will find your way. I have no idea what I’m doing, I just know that I can’t do nothing and by doing something I will figure it out. Life isn’t going to hand you everything on a platter and you’re capable of doing so much more than just doing whatever it is that falls into your lap.
Being scared and feeling stuck is going to happen, but it’s better than being comfortable, at least this way you’ll do something about it. And sure, a lot of things are probably going to fail, things are not going to always be easy but if you didn’t ever fail what would you ever learn? If you didn’t fail how would you know when something you did accomplish was fulfilling? When you feel stuck remember that it is just that, a feeling. Failing doesn’t make you a failure, but it will get you that much closer to your end goal. If that to-do list keeps staying the same time and time again and you continue to feel stuck, maybe it’s time to change the to-do list. You can’t continue to do the same things over and over again and expect a different result.
Next time you feel stuck or like you aren’t getting anywhere, don’t just take it and wait for that feeling to go away, do something, anything at all because as long as you are doing something you aren’t staying the same and there is something you can learn from it.
I love telling you all that things do get better (and they do) and that you can do anything (because you can) but you can’t expect things to get done by not putting any real work into it. If you can’t do it all in a day, do something, every day, you’ll have much more to show for it and you’ll feel much better about it I promise you.
Thanks for reading ☀️☀️☀️

P.S. my blog turned 1 year old this week so I just want to say thank you thank you thank you to everyone that has been following and keeping up with me, it really means so so much to me you guys have no idea.
We are so close to 5,000 followers and I want to do something special and personal when we get there and it involves mailing you guys something so if you follow me and feel comfortable, email me a mailing address so I can get this thang goin. I promise to give you more details when we get closer to 5,000 but I wanted to let you know it’s coming!! Thank you so much again to all of you ❤
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55 thoughts on “Patience

  1. “I have no idea what I’m doing, I just know that I can’t do nothing and by doing something I will figure it out.”

    My God, this is what I so desperately needed. Thanks 🙂

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  2. It’s a feeling we all go through!! And we all come out as well in our own different ways! So, the rut and routine is good in the sense it brings out different elements in you!

    And , many happier ones post your successfully passing the one year threshold!! Way to go!! Am 40 posts old but feel I can do it some day, some 5000 followers or so 🙂

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  3. Omg I totally understand! Those are the times when you make tiny, incremental changes and then BAM! Suddenly the earth opens up and you find yourself carried away with such swiftness your head spins. And you wouldn’t have been ready to grab the opportunity without the grueling, mind-numbing gulag experience.
    It can feel like you are waiting forever, but keep your eyes open.

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  4. I’ve been feeling similar lately. Thanks for sharing you’re thoughts and putting it so succinctly.
    I loved this part especially: ‘There’s a difference between being patient and being passive’… so much yes!
    X Bon

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  6. I’ve been feel same lately and it really bring so much despair. But, this post really caught my mind. I can feel a flash of hope. Thanks for sharing.

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  7. I can totally relate to how you are feeling. Life can become so challenging and frustrating at times, we often feel like all we do is wait! Very powerful post!
    Congratulations one year blogging! My one year is next week. 5000 follower is pretty amazing!!!

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  8. It is never the case that you do anything. You do definitely all the time something what Chance your life, because chances come every second in becoming older. The fact is the feeling of doing nothing because you are not lucky with something in your life and you want to force a change at this special thing…so when pain is too big you start to act and try… and you judge afterwards if you feel better… maybe you do so you are on the right way. Maybe not, than you maybe retry, because you are longing for this change… but this can just turn out like a sad game of a gambler… to speak in picture… to risk at the end all your money and ending in insolvency… much more deeper in real… because you play with your hope ending up in depressions.

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  9. Congrats on, hold in let me get my list out, your blogaversary, did I spell that fake word right?, your almost 5,000 followers, yay! that is awesome, and on having a wonderful blog. Thank you for your interest in my blog and I look forward to following yours.

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  10. So inspiring. This was me when I started my blog. I wanted more for myself but was afraid of failing but just doing something every day for it made me so proud of myself so what you say is so true, just do something and be amazed with how capable you are and how much growth you experience. Thanks for sharing!

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  11. This feeling of stuckness is your connecting with intuitively knowing that there is a disease collapsing the leadership of the global system that is related to the collapse of executive function in individuals that I have termed “stuck-addiction”.

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  12. “Not having it all figured out is not an excuse not to start, because once you start you will find your way.” Yess, this is so important. It’s so easy to convince yourself out of something because we haven’t figured out how we are going to achieve the things we love doing. I’m still learning how to be comfortable with not knowing. This is a great post thank you for sharing x

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  14. Wow! Great ideas! Good to appreciate a state of maplessness. What i know, n it is what u know too, is that it should be okay. Perhaps it reminds u of a time when u were conditioned to always know where ur going. But really, there are times when u can’t really know! N there is no fault in that!
    Glide along! Go with flow! We might be surprised at where this leads to🌷🌹🌷 same boat!🍃🍃🍃

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  15. Passivity is something I’ve been going through. I think that a sense of imprisonment due to health issues is contributing to this. When you feel unable to connect with other people and function in society, It can be tough but I agree that we have to keep trying.

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  16. This article is literally inspiring and motivational. You succeed to put in there so many truths, in such a simple way that it doesn’t matter whether the reader is in a good mood or not, you just make him/her feel even better. 🙂 thank you also for appreciating my post and I am glad that you let me discover you. You have one more follower who can’t wait to read more from you. Keep it going! 🙂

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  18. Many times all one can do is simply take a step. Stop look around and then take another step. Even doing and accomplishing just a lttle bit is far better than allowing the “blanket of passivity” to be thrown over you. Your explanation of the differences between patience and passivity is spot one. As they say, “patience is a virtue.” Thanks very much for sharing

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  19. I completely understand what you’re saying – there’s such a difference between being patient and passive – although astrologically there’s a time and place for both – thanks for a great post. Looking forward to reading more in the future.

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  20. Hi!
    I love your belief in keeping on. That failing is ok. I too agree with those plans of living ones life. I need to say that it sounds so simple, and it’s just not, at least not for everyone. No one package fits us all.
    My thoughts circle around the same things, or get stuck in some new loop of the moment. This can, and does, effectively stop me from reaching out that day. I always have my toolkit and my future plan but accepting that I move forward very slowly is ok. It’s not failure, it’s my success.
    Thanks for your words

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