When There’s Not A Reason

I have always been someone who takes responsibility for my actions, I say sorry when I mess up, I always try to see different sides of situations and I always make sure to solve my own problems rather than leaving them a mess for others to clean up. We can all dedicate ourselves to being that great person all we want, but that doesn’t guarantee us that bad things won’t happen.

     I feel like I have to admit that these past few weeks have been pretty difficult and stressful and I haven’t had the time or the mental focus to sit down and give as much attention to my blog as I would like (I’m so sorry ily). I have been trying to find something positive that has come from this small chapter in my life and I haven’t been able to find one, sometimes life just happens so I think that in itself gave me something to write about. I’m not really sure where i’m headed with this so just bear with me.

     I definitely believe that a lot of things in life do happen for a reason, and that the things you go through in life can and do shape you to who you are going to be in the future. I think that being strong and honest and wanting to help and love others and having empathy makes you a good person and that because of that good things should come back to you. Most of the time that is the case, but it doesn’t always happen that way. Not everything happens for a reason, sometimes we get dealt cards that we don’t deserve. The truth is you will never know why certain things happen, we just know that they do. Finding the reasons for why isn’t going to give you comfort or take away pain, in fact sometimes looking for answers can hurt you more. The reasons will not change the actions. You sometimes have to just accept that it is what it is.
     But, what does matter is how you cope with the things that happen to you that you just can’t seem to make sense of. Because in the end it doesn’t matter what happens, but more importantly how you react to it. Personally, I have always been really hard on myself, I always think I should be doing more or doing better and it can be really consuming when I should have just been accepting that I don’t have control over everything. Instead you should be coping by not beating yourself up and looking at what you can do to if not fix the situation, then at least not make it worse. I’m learning how to approach and move past situations that I don’t understand, things that happen that I know I don’t deserve, and the only thing I have found to be helpful is to let it go. I think that’s what makes it so hard, because you’re always looking for something to blame or explanation.  If something happens out of your control then chances are you can’t fix it either. You might need to talk about it, it’ll help you to get through it if you talk to someone. Things come and go just as easily and while the bad seem to make bigger impact, more good things are going to come too.  The quicker you can accept the sudden changes in your life the quicker you can put your efforts into something that will be of better use. Things that you’re feeling and going through right now is not going to be forever, while that doesn’t make the problems any better, it should remind you to at least try to keep your mindset on the right track. You’ve been doing so well for so long and it would be tragic to let something like this mess you up. Nothing stays the same forever, so hold on to that when things feel impossible. How you choose to or not to pick up the pieces can eat you alive. Like I said, the things that happen in life make you who you are. The reason they happen is irrelevant, just accept that they do.

Before I started writing this I felt stuck, like I wasn’t doing enough. As I started writing I started to realize that i’m doing exactly what I should be. The only way to get through something is to keep going. I realize that this post is extremely vague and by that, I hope that you can apply this to something to help benefit you.
Thanks for reading. ☀️☀️☀️

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83 thoughts on “When There’s Not A Reason

  1. I identify with what you wrote in this post so much, many of these sentiments have fallen from my lips in conversations with others over the years. Beautifully expressed! 🙂 Ariana

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