By reading the title of this you probably know whether it applies to you or not. I have been reading a lot the past few weeks (mostly blog posts but books too!!) and by the looks of it, I know that many of you know what I’m talking about. There are very few things that feel worse than when your mind is going a million places at once and not knowing why or where it came from. It’s even more intense if you’re someone that typically feels calm and collected. You aren’t used to being shaken up all the time. Your fight or flight reaction doesn’t know what to do, you stay calm but your head feels crazed, probably more than you want to admit to. Admittedly or not, it happens to the best of us one time or another. So, if this sounds like you, or even if it doesn’t, here ya go:
Here are some things that can happen to minds that get a little too anxious. Everyone processes emotions differently, but I hope this helps to make sense of some of it, or can help you in some way.
1 . You care what people think – Half of the reason you feel anxious might be because you don’t let yourself react naturally to things or feelings, but instead reacting how you think you’re expected to. I have done this so. many. times. I don’t know why, it’s ridiculous when I think about it because I know that what someone thinks about how I respond to something shouldn’t affect me. We should never ever keep quiet or apologize for how we feel.
2. You’re able to turn off your mind – Learning this might have developed out of necessity, but you can use it to your advantage. When your plate is already full as it is, it causes a lot of extra stress when others expect you to deal with their problems too. It’s totally okay and actually very refreshing to go out of your way to put yourself in a position where other people can’t put their weight on you.
3 . You stay in control of yourself – You probably don’t want to make yourself or your emotions anyone else’s responsibility. The thought of losing control of these things is terrifying. This could also mean that you don’t like to or are scared to accept help from others. Everyone needs help in some way at some point, you are not troubling anyone by asking for it. You’ll feel the relief once you do it.
4 . You don’t like to confront people – This is probably to avoid upsetting anybody, which can also mean not communicating how you feel. Holding things in seems like the best solution sometimes, when in reality communicating can probably solve the whole problem. On top of that, worrying about it is only going to add to your anxious feeling. Honesty is the best policy!
5 . You sometimes objectify your emotions – They are easier to process when they’re not your own. This can be really beneficial to keep your emotions from controlling you, but it can be harmful if you only process or really feel the ones you want. We are meant to feel all emotions, both good and bad. It’s important to know that to avoid being controlled by your emotions is different than not feeling them.
6 . You prepare for the worst – You know the saying, “prepare for the worst but hope for the best”? yeah. Knowing the worst that could happen is helpful because nobody likes surprises, the unfavorable ones at least. You probably know that whatever is going to happen, is going to happen and worrying about it will not change the outcome. Unless being prepared can help change the outcome, in that case, this is why you like to be prepared.
These things only have power if you let them control you. Sometimes not knowing what to do with a feeling can make you feel crazy, I promise you’re not. We can blame fear for being a huge factor in it all, but if I could give you any advice about breaking from that feeling, I would say to learn to understand what triggers you. Once you understand it you can learn how to fight it. It might feel like a sneaky and evil thing because you don’t think you can control it, but you can’t let it take over your life, you have much better ways to spend your life.
The purpose of this was to point out that for those of you that get this feeling, you aren’t alone. I hope you found some comfort in this. This post is kind of different than any posts I’ve written before but I thought I should try to touch on the subject, I hope you enjoyed it and got some benefit from it.
Thanks for reading ☀☀
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