When Life Flips Upside Down

Life is always unpredictable. You go to sleep one night hoping that tomorrow will be a bright day but the next morning brings to your worst day. You think that days can only get so bad but then life shows you that it can get worse. You wonder constantly what you did to deserve this, and you never get any answers. You can only take so much until you feel like this feeling is all you have. Life is unfair. You can’t find anyone else to put the blame on. You cant even blame yourself most of the time. Things just happen.
What we CAN do, is try to remember a few things.  

Yes talking to people you’re close to is beneficial, holding your feelings in will eat you alive and the longer you hold it in the more painful it’ll become. Howeverrrrrr, if you’re like me and don’t like to talk about your problems to most people, hopefully this post will relieve some of your worries.

It’s so easy to feel like whatever you’re going through is all you have. Thankfully life doesn’t stop for anything or anyone, which means that whatever it is, is going to pass. It might seem like forever but there’s always going to be more to look forward to. Personally when something goes wrong in my life I always try to use it as motivation to push myself harder to who and where I want to be, being unsatisfied is the best motivation in my opinion. Another thing to remember is that not everyone is going to understand you, and that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you or with them, and that doesn’t mean that they don’t care. People won’t always be able to relate, so try not to take it the wrong way when that happens. Going off of that, never let the “people have it worse” saying make you feel like your problems aren’t valid. That is one of the things that upsets me the most because everyone struggles differently and just because one person might have it “worse” does not mean that your problems are any less real or painful.

Now here’s some things you can’t do when life seems to flip upside down:
You can’t beat yourself up for it, things are going to happen in or out of your control and beating yourself up for it is not going to change anything except make you feel worse. Sure, take a day or two to get yourself together and gather your thoughts if you need to, but please try to get yourself back up. You might not make it as far as you’d like to right away but TRYING is going to get you a hell of a lot further than not trying. You can’t feel like you’re alone, I promise you that no matter what it is you are not alone. Feeling alone has got to be one of the worst feelings because you feel stuck and helpless and nowhere to turn to. If you feel like this please reach out to someone you know or one of the numbers or websites I have listed below and I guarantee you will feel so much better knowing you aren’t the only one that feels this way. Lastly,  you absolutely can not give up on yourself. This applies whether its your mental health, your goals, your family, your friends or even just getting through the day because I know that is no easy task sometimes. 

This is the life we have been given and you’ve come this far. You either let it destroy you or you come out of it the strongest. The choice is yours, but why wouldn’t you want to see how much better life could be ?

Helpful websites: 

Helpful phone numbers: 
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
Child Abuse National Hotline: 1-800-252-2873
Children and Adolescence in danger: 1-800-543-7283
Self- abuse: 1-800-366-8288
National Institute of Mental Health Information: 1-800-647-264

PS. I am starting an instagram to go along with my blog!! Where I can post daily thoughts and little posts in between these posts, @ definingyellow if you guys want to follow it! Also I added a page that explains why I write and what I want the purpose of my blog to be, located under the “Purpose” link or you can click here if you want to read it. 🙂

Thanks for reading   

92 thoughts on “When Life Flips Upside Down

  1. Years ago my wife had a boss who would say during stressful times “this too shall pass.” He was correct but the “too” meant both the good and the bad. It’s a roller coaster ride but I believe the high points far out weigh the lows. One can see so much clearer up there.

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  2. I’ve found it incredibly helpful to look at a negative situation in life as a gift, something that’s there to either teach me something, or to get me to change directions and go another way. When I take this perspective, that feeling of heaviness that problems can bring is lifted, and I am able to take my “gift” and create a new future. It takes practice, but it does work.

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  3. This post really resonated with me. When you said everyone is struggling with different things, I can really relate with you. Everyone is on their own journey, doing different things and everyone will find certain experiences different from each other. I loved this post, keep it up! 🙂

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  4. thank you! i have big problems with the idea that we’re responsible for everything unpleasant that life may bring us, so it’s great to read you, acknowledging that life does have its downs and its moments of darkness and putting the focus on how to hold on through the difficult emotions.

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  5. Life is unfair but that doesn’t mean you could just choose to give up. Besides, struggles are what helps us better who we are and what we are capable of. Thanks for sharing this!

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  6. I’ve been through some of your posts and after reading it there is some positive vibe that i get, that’s what i feel great about your blog. Keep it going and maybe you can help me as well by going through my blog 🙂 it would be great if anyone guides me

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  7. I like your approach, too often I see positive thinking advice that invalidates negative thoughts by encouraging the “Fake it till you make it approach.” I have found that if one does not face and process those negative emotions they will eventually come to the surface and often be worse than if they had processed them in the first place. Well done.

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  8. This is somewhat relieving to read. It gave me a different perception of some things. Life gets to me sometimes and it takes a long time to heal. But you’re right, we only have one life after all hahah

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  9. Reblogged this on The Bipolar Blonde and commented:
    Great read! I loved this part at the end This is the life we have been given and you’ve come this far. You either let it destroy you or you come out of it the strongest. The choice is yours, but why wouldn’t you want to see how much better life could be ?“

    I didn’t choose the life I am living and I try not to get caught up in “it is not fair” because yes I am struggling but I am also learning and blossoming and I know I am going to come out so much better!

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  10. That’s the sad thing. Whenever you tell yourself, “I have nothing to lose”, life proves you wrong. Ground zero is just a fantasy, there’s always a worser state, always.
    Well written.

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      1. No problem! It seems as though you put thought into each word you write: that’s awesome. And I liked how you made the reader extend that r-sound in “however.” It was fun to read! I’ll be looking out for your next post.

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  11. I reposted this to my blog…because I haven’t been feeling too well. It is true that today…is not all that there is. I feel physically sick today for whatever reason, which escalates my anxiety and depression…but in time, I know that this will turn around. I was able to do things yesterday (like go to Home Depot and go to McDonald’s) that I was afraid I would not be able to do. So…things can go up and down….and we just need to ride the wave.

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  12. I really needed this today. I feel like I’m so close to reaching the point where I can fight on positively, but I’m just not quite there.
    Really beautifully written, honest post. Thank you for sharing with us.

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  13. Grateful for you sharing this! Thank You! I know others who struggle need to be reminded of how helpful others can be!
    Nooo, You’re Going INSTA too? Sigh… I’m just bitter bc my phone is old and slow it’s difficult for me to Instagram and not lose my patience… I think I have one active still, maybe I’ll seek you?


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  15. I really love the part about not letting “people have it worse” make your feelings invalid! So many times I have heard someone say to a friend going through a hard time that “it could be worse” or “well, everyone has hard seasons” and totally invalidating their friend’s experience. More people need to hear what you said!


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