For a lot of us it feels like life is always against us, when one thing gets resolved another problem comes up. We mind our own business but problems always seem to find their way into our lives.
Sometimes its unfair, I’ve been a good person why do bad things keep happening? How does every person I let close to me end up letting me down? A person can only take so much and be so positive until they hit their breaking point, and sometimes we do.
I’ve put some thought into this, and I don’t know about you but looking back, many times when a bad thing happens in my life there seems to be a ripple effect in a positive way. Now I know that sounds backwards but let me explain.
If my life hasn’t been a constant challenge growing up, I don’t know if I would be as level headed and sure of what I want for myself. If I was comfortable my whole life I think that’s exactly what I would be, comfortable. Who’s to know if I would have expectations for myself as high as they are now?
If I have never been hurt or treated poorly by people that I trusted, I imagine I would still be so open to letting people in my life and letting people walk all over me. I am so thankful that I now know how to recognize when i’m not getting treated like I deserve to be.
If I never got to a point in my life that I felt so badly about myself that I didn’t think I deserved good, then there’s a chance I wouldn’t know just how much I do deserve.
And lastly, If I never got to a point of thinking that I couldn’t handle a situation I was given, I wouldn’t recognize how strong I am and realize that I can handle a hell of a lot more than I thought I could.
I am not thanking anyone for hurting me in any way, or saying that you have to have a rough life to do great things, but I do like to look at the situations I’ve been given as a key factor for who I have become. Now that might just be my way of accepting things but I wouldn’t say it’s a bad way.
I’m also not saying that I wouldn’t ever be who I am now if my life was easy, I believe that I would have found my way in any situation, but it has definitely created some clarity and motivation for me. Another tip I want to give you all is to try to notice when these situations end, we’re so used to getting upset at the world when bad things happen but we never notice when they pass, it gives you something to appreciate when you don’t think you have anything to hold on to.
The point of this post is to hopefully help change the way you look at the obstacles in your life, I know that we all have them at one point or another and it might seem like it’ll never end or get any better, but I promise they will. And I hope that you can take these situations to motivate you to do better. There are so many ways to deal with problems and I hope that every single one of you will decide to deal with it in a positive way. I’ve said it multiple times before and i’ll say it multiple times more, you are not what has been done to you and you decide how you want to live your life. You’re never alone. Break the cycles. Do better. Be kind to yourself. When it’s all over you’ll thank yourself for it.
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