I have realized lately that fear has occupied so much of my life for so long and in many ways I didn’t even realize it. I’ve always been so hesitant to change anything in my life or to start anything new even if it was something I really wanted to do because I would always be scared that I would fail or I would care too much about what other people would think. There are a million excuses I could make for any situation. Whether it was speaking up for myself, quitting my job, walking away from a toxic situation, starting something new or anything that involved going out of my comfort zone, I made an excuse for it. Even this blog, this was a huge step out of my comfort zone, and I still get nervous and judge myself as I write. It’s not something I have even come close to mastering yet, but I am trying acknowledge when I’m making an excuse for things that scare me and realize that there probably no harm in doing any of those things. In fact, doing something and realizing that it isn’t for me or realizing that my decisions were wrong is a lot better than continuing to be scared and wondering what would happen if I did them.
I’m not saying don’t ever be scared, that wouldn’t make us human. But letting your fears drive you and make or prevent your decisions is disabling you from being whatever it is you want to be. You’re meant to be great, don’t let something such as fear hold you back. Being scared makes you stressed and overwhelmed and you probably feel like you’re the only one feeling that way, and you’re not. It’s not easy, and like I said it’s not something I have mastered by any means, but it is something I think is worth working towards.
No one is judging you as much as you think they are and no one is going to stop you from doing whatever it is you want to do. And also- if anyone is going to try to judge you for doing something that you enjoy then it says a lot more about them than it does about what you’re doing. You don’t need validation from anyone, you don’t need to impress anyone other than yourself, and don’t apologize for doing it. Do not be ashamed or embarrassed or scared for taking a step towards getting what you want. Take a chance, you’ll thank yourself for it later.
Thanks for reading ☀️☀️☀️
“You don’t need validation from anyone” ~ well said! That part of the post really resonated with me.
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I remember 3 years ago, I decided to do something about my fear, sadness and anger (emotions). I have been dealing with it since then. I found journaling helps me a lot in the healing. Later I found out ‘narrative theraphy’ from a friend who is a psychologist.
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YESS, this is so inspiring!! Thank you 🙂 I always get very afraid but this kind of thing helps – by the way I love your blog! Keep on going xx
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I’ve been having a bit of a rough patch, and your post comforted me. It’s a worthwhile thing to write about, thanks.
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Im so glad it was able to comfort you! keep your head up ❤
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Love your blog, there is so much I identify with!
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thank you so much!
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A Wonderfully wise, uplifting and inspiring post! Thanks so much for sharing!!! Bravo!
Chuck
xoxo
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thank you so much!!
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This is so inspiring, Kourtney! I can relate to this perfectly and I am so glad that you have taken those steps to fight back against the fear that holds you back! I am doing the same thing. We are stepping out of our comfort zones so that we can finally live life the way it was meant to be lived! That’s really admirable, and I know this will help a lot of people. Much respect and thank you for sharing!
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Thank you!! That means so much to me 🙂
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Bravo! I believe in fear as a ruler. Usually if you are afraid of failure that generally means that that is something that the universe is challenging you to conquer. Great job for accepting the challenge.
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Thanks for stopping by my blog. I tend to be fearful when it comes to life decisions, but I have been working on doing what I want no matter what. I loved your points and encouragement in this blog post! Thanks!
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You’re so right
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Lovely. Very well written.
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Fear does limit people and prevent them from making changes or taking risks. They can remain comfortable but maybe not challenged and stretched. Depends on what kind of life you want and your goals. You may do well to look into becoming a counselor/therapist.
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You are very courageous and articulate. Thank you for words of inspiration.
Lisa
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Really lovely blog and post today. Your words will help me of those who deal with fear. Me, too. Thank you! And thank you for visiting my blog so I could find my way back to follow yours! 🙂
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Love this!
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Reblogged this on PTSD Beautiful Trauma and commented:
No one is judging you as much as you think they are and no one is going to stop you from doing whatever it is you want to do. And also- if anyone is going to try to judge you for doing something that you enjoy then it says a lot more about them than it does about what you’re doing. You don’t need validation from anyone, you don’t need to impress anyone other than yourself, and don’t apologize for doing it. Do not be ashamed or embarrassed or scared for taking a step towards getting what you want. Take a chance, you’ll thank yourself for it later.
Thank you for this post, Defining Yellow… I’ll redefine Purple later on my blog. Have a good day. Luv xx
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Words are words…wisdom says so much more. I enjoyed reading this…TY. TC
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Reblogged this on Crosspoint Life & Career Blog.
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Working on it!
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Keep this up. Face them down, one by one. It gets easier, then it becomes much more natural, and then it becomes a joy.
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I agree! Thank you 🙂
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Love Love Love the positivity! The world needs more sunshine. Thanks so much!
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thank you so so much!
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What a nice post to read. It spoke to me. We all have some fears yes, personally I think mine is due do to past experiences but yes at the end we need to get out the comfort zone again. Or do something completely different. Great read! Enjoyed it! 🙂
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The past can really throw us off track, good thing it doesnt have to be the future! Keep it up. Thank you 🙂
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I needed that! thanks
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Love how uplifting this is ❤ Thanks for sharing 🙂
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So much validation. Thank you for sharing love
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Great post. Echoes a lot of what I think.
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thank you so much!!
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So full of wisdom, great post!
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Thank you so much!!
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I think I feel at home with your blog, thank you for writing..
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Really important info to share with others. Thank you
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A wonderful piece, from the heart. I coach many people who label themselves with Imposter Syndrome – “fear” could be a very appropriate alternative. Thank you – enjoyed reading this.
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Facing your fears is hard to do sometimes but neccessary to have a free mind.
Great post!
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