Too Close to Home

You see things on the news and you see things and movies that are so bad and heartbreaking, good thing it’s a movie or not happening to you right?   
My best friend has always been so strong, she’s the kind of person that bad things don’t happen to, ever. Well about three weeks ago I got a message saying that she was in a traumatic car accident, she hit a tree driving home and was unconscious in the SICU. That’s all the information I got until I got to the hospital. Her dad warned me when I got there that she was going to look different and  that I should prepare myself. When I got there she had breathing tubes down her throat, two shattered femurs, a collapsed lung, bleeding in her brain and bruises all over her body.  She was less than a mile from home when the accident happened. Who would’ve thought that a regular day would’ve turned into the scariest day of my life this far.
She went into surgery to put rods in both legs two days later, her body was under so much stress from the accident and the surgery that it was taking her lungs longer to recover. I wasn’t sleeping longer than 3-4 hours a night, spending 20 hours a day next to her at the hospital. There was fluids in her liver and spleen that were making it harder to recover, her lungs weren’t cooperating and the ventilator being in her so long was giving her pneumonia. By the fourth day or so she was completely swollen and hardly looked like herself. She had trauma to her brain so at this point we weren’t sure if there would be significant brain damage. Of course I was with her family and kept positive but my mind wandered to the worst places. What in the world would I do if I lost her? What would my last conversation with her have been? Thankfully after almost 9 days her lungs were strong enough to work on their own and she woke up.
She’s recovering now but it put so much into perspective. I was JUST talking to her earlier that day, how could that have happened to her in just a few hours? It could have not been her legs, what if it was her brain or her heart that were crushed?
It took one second for me to put everything on hold to make sure she was going to be okay. Nothing else mattered to me except the condition she was in.
I have seen pictures and stories of things like this happening to people before, I have tried to put myself in their positions to try to understand how something like that would affect me, but you really never know until it happens to you. It was the most traumatic thing to ever happen to me and it didn’t even happen to me.
I hope anyone still reading this will take this as a message to always let people know you care about them, because you don’t know if your last conversation with them will be your last conversation with them. I didn’t know if I would get another conversation with my best friend. Stop wasting time doing things that don’t matter and being around people who aren’t good for you. It takes less than a second and your whole world could change, don’t put yourself in a position to wish you did something differently. I am so grateful for the people I keep close to me and I always try to make sure they know it. If it wasn’t my best friend, it could have been someone else’s, or someones parent or sibling or significant other, etc. I don’t know how else to get the message across, love the things and people you have in life, don’t take it for granted.

Thanks for reading ☀️☀️☀️

16 thoughts on “Too Close to Home

  1. Thank you. Everything you say is so true. Years ago when my children were small our family was involved in a car accident. My son broke his femur and ended up celebrating his third birthday in hospital. My whole world turned upside down and inside out. Fortunately the injuries my husband, daughter and I sustained were less serious, but the trauma to our souls was far reaching. I never looked at anything the same again. I can say, however, that I became a better person as a result.

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  2. How scary! I’m sorry that you had to have such a tragic experience like this, and I’m glad that your friend is getting better. You are incredibly empathetic and insightful. I’m sure your friend was glad you were there with her family and by her side.

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  3. I’m so glad your friend is recovering. I pray everyone tells their friends and loved ones how much they mean to them and often.
    Sadly, in 2010, I lost my youngest brother (38) a day after he got hit by a truck while walking across the highway at night. He had just spent two days helping us move so it was quite a shock.
    I wrote this poem in hopes to help others not to experience this. The feelings were mixed, grief for the loss, anger for this happening and grateful that he was able to be a donor for at least 9 people.
    But witnessing my mom’s grief was the worst experience of my life. There is some comfort now ( with more grief too) that she is also passed ( one year ago, July 2016 ) and holding him in her arms again.

    Everyone…take to heart the words in definingyellows blog…they are worth every everything!

    Tell Your Friends

    I recommend you tell your friends
    How much they mean to you
    How much you care
    One day you’re looking for them
    And they’re no longer there
    Tell them you’ll cherish them always
    Cherish them in your heart
    For certainty comes
    Leaving you far apart
    Far apart in flesh
    But not in our souls
    Love everyone
    Make it part of your goals
    We miss you now and love you still
    Thank God for friendship
    It is His will

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  4. I’m so sorry to hear that this happened to your friend! I hope she is doing better and is recovering. You are right, life is too short not to spend it with the people you care about and doing the things you love.

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  5. I have said this same thing to so many people over the years and I’m not sure how many of them have taken it to heart but it is so true. Your writings only emphasize the importance of letting those we love know it as much as possible because one of those times WILL be the last time and we never really know when that is. Great post and I’m happy your friend is on her way to recovery.

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