Forgiveness

I’m usually a very forgiving person, I don’t like to hold grudges. I don’t like to hold onto anger, I know that it weighs on me more than it weighs on the person i’m angry at.

So in case I haven’t, I forgive you, I forgive my parents for not being the best role models, I forgive my family for expressing more hate towards each other than love, I forgive my brother for the hurtful things he’s said to me, I forgive all the people in my past that have broke me and the people that have broke my family, and I forgive all the people that are going to hurt me and disappoint me in the future. I forgive all of these people, but that doesn’t mean I want them in my life again, or that I ever plan to speak to them, but I forgive them.
Holding on to anger makes you so tired, these people aren’t bothered that you’re angry, in fact they probably don’t even know or they get pleasure of knowing that they have affected you. When someone does something that gets to you, you have to make a decision. If you want to walk around with stored anger and pain limiting your quality of life, or to let it go. It’s hard to let it go, and it hurts for a minute but then it’s over. Life is going to keep going, and things are going to happen. If its possible, save your energy for things that are worth it. If you can let it go, do it. You’re better and stronger for it.  I’m not saying that everyone deserves your forgiveness, because I understand in some situations it’s not possible.
It sounds cliche but why not use your energy to love the people in your life even more?
I don’t exactly know where i’m going with this, but you attract people with the same qualities that you possess, which means that if you’re good to others and express caring qualities, youre going to attract those kind of people back to you. The rest of the people will fall off.
With everything going on right now, it’s so important to love each other. Remind the people that you care about that you love them, be there for people and reassure them because you never know who needs it. You don’t know whose day you could be making. Being good to people makes us feel better about ourselves as well, not everyone deserves it. But the ones that do, let them know.
I hope everyone who reads this knows that whatever is going on, you aren’t alone, it won’t last forever, you are loved, and you’re perfect.

Thanks for reading ☀️☀️☀️

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24 thoughts on “Forgiveness

  1. I agree, harbouring anger is tiring, it eats away at you and causes you more pain than the one who’s created the angst in the first place – so YES let’s use our energy for spreading happiness and love xx

    (It’s hard though, it is jolly tricky sometimes…so when I’m in that place, struggling with how to forgive someone who I feel may not deserve it, I admit that this quote from Oscar Wilde can be quite a motivator… “Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much”)

    In all seriousness, well said and remember YOU are loved and pretty perfect too! xx

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  2. Great post!
    Over 15 years ago I said good-bye to my abusive relationships and my crazy messed up scarier than Halloween family.
    In one single moment I felt the relief of a lifetime. Absolutely no regrets. I forgive them but I can’t live with them.

    My children and I were finally able to enjoy the unique gift of safety.

    Blessings to you.

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  3. Thanks for “liking” my post about seniors and sexual harassment. I just want you to know that I’m a bazillion years older than you, I work in hospice and if there’s one thing I’ve learned here, it’s that the thing that matters the most to those who are dying is being loved and hoping they did the best they could during their time here. Keep at it; it sounds like you’ve found a good path.
    Lisa

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  4. Wow what an incredible piece. I am working on forgiveness myself as I try to be a better person and be closer to god. A few years back I had a family member say something that really hurt on social media. I held on to what she said for years and years. I realized like you said, that it was hurting me more than it hurt her. In fact it didn’t hurt hurt at all because I never responded. But I have learned that to have love and forgiveness in my heart makes me a happier and healthy person. Just because I forgive you doesn’t mean I forget our I want you in my life. I could really relate and looking forward to reading more of what you have to say. Dave

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  5. Pingback: To Forgive or Not Forgive. That Depends on the Situation. | Randi's Rants

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